It seems to me lately that alot of stories I am hearing are of guys not understand. not listening. or saying things that seem so whack to their lady friend. So here are my top 5 things that will take your tension from a 10 to a 2.
1. Don't buy a girl clothes. Whatsoever.
I think the worst idea a guy could have is buying a girl clothes or accessories. Because face it. Unless you have been married for 15 years, you don't quite know her style, or what goes into picking what you like.It is a little more complicated than just the "style". "Is the cut of the shirt flattering? Does that color look good on her skin tone? Will it be too tight in the bust and make me look like dolly parton exploding out of this blouse?" This is what happens when we try on clothes. Now, beware of when she points something in a store. Just because she said she liked that dress at Anthropology, that is not the go ahead to take your mom to help you pick out the right thing. Let's face it. Your mom, her mom, her sister, her friends, they will never exactly pin point her style. Instead, just get her a gift card to her favorite store, and tell say, "Now you can go get that shirt and shoes you really liked". Win. Every time. Guaranteed.
2. "Are you doing ok?" "Yeah I'm fine!" "Ok cool." *Hell breaks loose*
Alright so we all know the age old issue with girls. They say they are ok, but you know if the word 'fine' is used in her sentence, things are usually not as ok as she says they are. Unfortunately, girls will do this at some points in their lifetime. There's no way of getting around it. Girls don't communicate the same way guys do. So therefore, communication issues! But guys need to help out just as much as girls do. Always just double check that they are ok. So then when they say their response for the second time, the ball is in their court and you can't say you misunderstood.
3. Make sure you know what she drinks.
Knowing what your girl drinks is important. You can never ever order her food, because you will most likely always lose. But drinks? You have a higher chance of getting some sort of reward for your efforts. When you order a girl a drink, maybe while she's in the bathroom at a restaurant while you are sitting down to your table, or driving through a starbucks on your way to see her and you want to surprise her with a little something, think about it. Think about all she has ordered in the past, what she ordered the most. That will definitely be a big help. Don't just pick the thing you heard her say last. Girls pick what they like for whatever mood they are in. It changes alot. Here is what will happen if you order her something wrong.
Scenario #1 - She's crazy. In her little PMS mood which is probably not even PMS, she's just moody. She'll not-so-gently hint to you that she does not drink that. Depending on who, she might make a scene. Let's hope she's a little more grown up than that.
Scenario #2. More on the shy end, she sees your effort into getting her something nice, but its something she is not in the mood for, or doesn't like at all. Then she proceeds to not say anything, because she feels bad you went to all that trouble, but she can't even stand to take a sip it is so disgusting to her. So now she is sad.When all else fails, text her best friend what she likes, or better yet, just ask her. You'll be way better off than trying to do the whole surprise-shpeel.
5. Pick a girl who can communicate.
Probably the worst decision a guy can make is picking a girl that can not for the life of her communicate. Too many issues. Now I know that everyone should be loved no matter where they are in life, but seriously guys? You pick the girl who looks cute as a button but she can't even tell you what she wants for dinner tonight cause she's crying profusely over the fact that you didn't understand her when she told you she wanted the tiffany blue sweater for her birthday yesterday and you got her the baby blue one? "But all she said was that blue sweater she saw!" You scream in your head. (see? don't buy a girls clothes.) All I'm saying is, think a bit before you jump into a relationship with a girl. Just saying.
5. Please please please. Don't tell her she's a 6.5.
Ok so. When girls get home from a long night of work, or maybe just straight from the gym, they just really want to put on some pajama pants, slick off the make up, and most likely not even think about their hair and how they look while laying on the couch when they are shoveling in flaming hot cheetos with their red tinted fingers. What goes through your mind? The image of how dolled up she looked when she walked in the door, then all of a sudden.... yep it pretty much left asap. Here's the thing. Girls like to be comfy too! You can walk around without a shirt and nothing on, don't have to wear makeup, no hair-do. Nothing. Comfy, right? But if you are feeling like your lady doesn't doll up for you as much as she does for others, don't even dare start to tell her. "Baby, I feel like, you know... you are always a 10. Smoking hot 10. But when you come home.. its like, oh just a 6.5" Sooooo how's that head of yours after she through a book at you from across the room after those words? Gentlemen. Inestead, inspire her. Tell her she's absolutely lovely. Touch her softly, then tell her you are going to take her out. Do that a couple times within 2 weeks, and she'll always wanna doll up for you. Because now she has a reason.
- Just a little help from Liv...
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